using an MS package on my web host. its a paid host, not a free host.

ive tried the "idiots guide" posted here, searched the forums and tried all of the different configs for the .htaccess (4 different sets of code), and i still cannot get my themes to be OTA'd.

i have also tried changing permissions to "755" but the server tells me "command not recognized" when i have the security settings box open. i tried manually checking the boxes for access to mimic 755, and it gives me the same "command not recognized" when i hit "ok"

gives a 404 page not found error.

im ready to start throwing things...

what else can i try?