^^ LOL!! ^^

there are some icons that will not, no matter what you do, display on the homescreen.

sms and/or mms will not work. you have to choose sms AND mms as the icon to place there (so you guys already figured out)

bbm will not show on the homescreen if you do not export the theme specifically for 4.5 and you HAVE To have 4.5 loaded for that icon to appear

i appreciate you guys working this out on the forums, that way everyone else can benefit